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Mothering Day

I am very aware of the upcoming celebration of Mother’s Day this year.  This is not because I am a mother and am looking forward to some acknowledgement from my children.  With their busy schedules in medical school and one that is far away in Norway, I will probably just receive a text wishing me a good day.  And that is fine.  I have three solid sons who are all involved in making a positive impact on the world.  What more can a mother wish for?

My awareness comes from the fact that I lost my mother this past February.  I miss her and though she was over 80, I was not ready to let her go.  I miss being able to call her on the phone and chat about everything and nothing.  No one will ever take the place of her and I am thankful for all that she taught me.  It is through her influence that I am the woman and mother than I am today.

I am  aware that many of my peers have lost their mothers as well.  Additionally, there are people I know that never had a good relationship with their mothers and thus don’t really have a mother they want to feel obligated to honor with a special card or gift.  There are also women who want desperately to become mothers but for some reason can not.  For all of us, Mother’s Day will be filled with loss and grief along with celebration.

According to Wikipedia, “Mother’s Day is a celebration honoring mothers and celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, yet most commonly in March, April, or May.”  It harkens back to some ancient celebrations of motherhood and goddesses in many different cultures.  It is a way of celebrating maternal bonds and the nurturing role that women can have on a society.

As such, my thoughts this year lean towards using the day to celebrate those women in my life that have nurtured me and encouraged me in my career, as a mother, as a woman and in general.  I am going to take the time to send cards to some of those women and thank them for being a significant part of my life.  I encourage you to do the same if you resonate with this idea.  For me, this won’t replace the loss of my mother but will help me to feel lighter on May 13th.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing women in the world!